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How to Overcome Your Childhood

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A guide to understanding, and liberating ourselves from, our past

To an extraordinary and humbling extent, who we are as adults is determined by events that happened to us before our fifteenth birthday. The way we express affection, the sort of people we find appealing, our understanding of success and our approach to work are all shaped by events in childhood.

We don't have to remain prisoners of the past, but in order to liberate ourselves from our histories we must first become fully aware of them. This is a book about such a liberation. We learn about how character is developed, the concept of "emotional inheritance", the formation of our concepts of being "good" or "bad" and the impact of parental styles of love on the way we choose adult partners. We learn too about how we might evolve emotionally and, in particular, how we may sometimes need to have a breakdown in order to have a breakthrough.

We are left with a powerful sense that building up an emotionally successful adult life is possible so long as we reflect with sufficient imagination and compassion on what happened to us a long while back.

Topics Include:

  • Emotional Inheritance - How emotional problems are handed down from parent to child
  • The Golden Child Syndrome - How too much love from our parents can be just as damaging as too little
  • Over-Achievement - How we compensate for emotional neglect through worldly success
  • Splitting - How we fail to reconcile between the good and bad aspects of our parents
  • Soothing - How we still require the kinds of affection we received as children
  • Becoming an Adult - How recognising our immaturity is the key to growth

Hardback book | 118 pages | 187mm x 115mm

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 5 reviews)

Carter C. ★★★★★

The chapter on how our pre-15 years shape adult behavior hit harder than I expected, and I kept putting the book down just to sit with it. It's not a quick fix, more like a slow unpacking, but that's exactly what I needed.

Ruby E. ★★★★★

I read a lot of self-help, and this stands out because it actually dives into the specific mechanics of how our pre-fifteen selves shape us, not just vague affirmations. The way it frames liberation as a practical process made me re-think my own reactions within the first few chapters. It’s heavy at

John T. ★★★★★

The chapter on how our pre-fifteen experiences shape adult behavior hit uncomfortably close to home, but in the best way. I found myself rereading whole sections because each pass revealed another layer of myself I'd been carrying without knowing. It's not a breezy read, but I feel lighter having fi