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We have for too long either openly condemned or secretly lusted after affairs: this, finally, is a chance to understand them

An affair is a dangerously garbled plea for intimacy - an attempt, however wrongly enacted, to remember what we so desperately want and need from love. Our societies are remarkably confident on the matter: affairs are terrible things and only fools, monsters and knaves would ever be involved in them. Those who are their victims deserve unending sympathy and access to a good lawyer. This stance may be clear, but it is not especially helpful given that, in reality, one in four of us will be involved in an affair during our lifetime.

This is a book written to increase our understanding of what is really at stake: it looks beyond the caricatures to examine why affairs happen; it delves into the question of what being unfaithful means and why, despite the risks, it happens so often. Most importantly, this book seeks to help us through affairs, offering couples a better understanding of each other's motivations and moods - and, where desirable, a way to save a relationship. We have for too long either openly condemned or secretly lusted after affairs: this, finally, is a chance to understand them.

Hardback book | 144 pages | 155mm x 110mm

Customer Reviews (4.8 / 5 · 5 reviews)

Isabella N. ★★★★★

The way it reframes the "garbled plea for intimacy" without moralizing is what hooked me—I kept flipping pages just to see how each chapter untangled the psychology behind it. It’s dense but readable, and I came away with more empathy than judgment, which I didn’t expect. Definitely the most thought

Jason V. ★★★★★

The framing of an affair as a "garbled plea for intimacy" stopped me cold—it reframes everything I thought I understood about betrayal. The author doesn't judge or excuse, just walks you through the messy psychology with real compassion. I finished it in two sittings and immediately wanted to loan i

Riley K. ★★★★★

I’ve never seen the psychology of infidelity broken down with such sharp honesty—the way it frames an affair as a desperate, broken plea for intimacy rather than simple betrayal really stayed with me. The writing pulls you in without moralizing, and I finished it feeling less judgmental and more cur