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長久以來，我們不是公開譴責就是暗自渴望外遇：這本書終於給了我們一個理解它們的機會
外遇是一種危險且混亂的親密請求——無論多麼錯誤地表現出來，都是試圖記起我們多麼渴望且需要愛。我們的社會對此非常篤定：外遇是可怕的事情，只有傻瓜、怪物和惡棍才會涉入其中。那些受害者值得無限的同情和一位好律師。這種立場或許明確，但考慮到現實中我們每四個人就有一人一生中會涉入外遇，這立場並不特別有幫助。
這本書旨在增進我們對真正關鍵問題的理解：它超越刻板印象，探討外遇為何發生；深入探討不忠的意義，以及為何儘管有風險，外遇仍如此頻繁。最重要的是，這本書試圖幫助我們度過外遇，讓伴侶更理解彼此的動機與情緒——並在需要時，找到挽救關係的方法。長久以來，我們不是公開譴責就是暗自渴望外遇：這本書終於給了我們一個理解它們的機會。
精裝書 | 144頁 | 155mm x 110mm
The way it reframes the "garbled plea for intimacy" without moralizing is what hooked me—I kept flipping pages just to see how each chapter untangled the psychology behind it. It’s dense but readable, and I came away with more empathy than judgment, which I didn’t expect. Definitely the most thought
The framing of an affair as a "garbled plea for intimacy" stopped me cold—it reframes everything I thought I understood about betrayal. The author doesn't judge or excuse, just walks you through the messy psychology with real compassion. I finished it in two sittings and immediately wanted to loan i
I’ve never seen the psychology of infidelity broken down with such sharp honesty—the way it frames an affair as a desperate, broken plea for intimacy rather than simple betrayal really stayed with me. The writing pulls you in without moralizing, and I finished it feeling less judgmental and more cur
